No Thanks For The Memory!
Occasionally, as happened recently, I am approached by a client who wishes to remove the memory of an event. This may be for any number of reasons, for example a traumatic childhood experience which the client considers debilitating in later life or perhaps the memories of a relationship which has subsequently ended.
Whilst on the face of it the request may appear to be reasonable and understandable, I declined this approach for following reasons:
Firstly, I feel it is true to say that every experience that we have in life (good or bad) is a lesson for the future. By removing the memory of the experience we remove the lesson – thereby reducing the chances of avoiding the upsetting or negative situation in the future. Also in the process of removing the memory I can never know what else I am removing as I wasn’t there at the original event.
Aside from the potential risk of removing some other unknown information that the client may have had a need for, removing the memory of an event could potentially have had distressing consequences perhaps years in the future when the client finds they are unable to remember a seemingly unrelated situation that everyone else around them remembers clearly. There is also a possibility that an innocent party who was present at the original event may bring the subject up in conversation and again the client remembers nothing which could potentially cause embarrassment or distress.
I decided that a far more useful approach was to remove any negative emotions or feelings connected with the event while still retaining all of the details. This approach allowed the client to keep the learning gained from it without the unwanted debilitating effect.
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Hypnotherapist Liverpool – Mersey Hypnosis – Making Change Easier.
Many people think of change as negative or something to fear. But when you stop and think about it, change is something that we do as human beings from the very moment of conception – it’s the natural way of things! You can’t control how or when things change in your life but you can control how you respond. Change is something that you can get better at. It’s a skill you can learn. In this movie Hypnotherapist and NLP Master, David Laing shows you how.
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Breaking The Smoking Cycle
I had a client this week who had several family members die of lung cancer after being a heavy smokers but he still felt the need to smoke until he came to see me. It’s very interesting to consider why this happens.
It’s very often the actual fear of cravings that stops smokers from giving up. They worry that they are going to experience traumatic physical pain. But when you think about it, smokers who say they can’t last an hour during the day without a cigarette can sleep eight hours without the nicotine withdrawal waking them and they don’t wake up in the morning in any pain. Some smokers will actually wait to reach work before they light the first cigarette of the day. They aren’t suffering terrible withdrawal pangs, they aren’t even in a mild panic. They are just looking forward to the first cigarette of the day.
The reality is that there is no actual pain, only the feeling of “I WANT TO SMOKE”. In fact smokers suffer nicotine withdrawal throughout their entire smoking lives and that’s actually the only reason they light the next cigarette!
When nicotine leaves your body it creates an empty, insecure feeling. When a smoker lights up to satisfy the craving, the nicotine is replaced and the empty, insecure feeling is immediately relieved. The smoker very often does feel more relaxed, less nervous and better able to concentrate than a moment before. But think about what is really happening. The current cigarette has merely removed the empty,insecure feeling created by the first cigarette and reinforced by every subsequent one. This is why there is this continuous chain effect to being a smoker.
Using hypnosis it is so incredibly easy to break the cycle. If you smoke, why not give it a try and get your life back?
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Hypnotherapist Liverpool – Mersey Hypnosis – How To Say No.
More and more demands are made on our time nowadays. Learning to say ‘NO’ in your personal life can be one of the biggest favours you can do for yourself. It helps reduce stress and gives you time for what’s really important.
Saying ‘NO’ can be tremendously difficult for many people. In this movie Hypnotherapist and NLP Master, David Laing shows you how.
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Self-Esteem problem?
I’ve had a number of clients recently with very low self esteem. It’s sad to think there are so many people out there who just don’t realise how wonderful they really are! I thought today I’d offer some thoughts that may help.
Self-esteem is not just about recognising your excellent qualities. It’s being able to see all your good points and weaknesses together, acknowledging them, and doing your best with what you have. You may not be the best golfer in the world, but that shouldn’t stop you enjoying playing the game!
When you have low self-esteem, you feel unworthy of attention. The world seems like an unfriendly place, full of people who will ignore you or treat you badly. People with lower self-esteem often put others down, including family or friends. Very often they tell me things like “anyone I like wouldn’t like me so anyone who does like me isn’t worth bothering with “. People who feel worthless think that they have nothing to contribute.
One way to boost your self-esteem is to consider your good points. What are you really good at? What are your skills and interests? How would a close friend describe you?
Here’s an exercise you might find helpful:
Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. Write the following headings:
1. Good points
2. Bad points
Remember that we all have our positive and negative sides. Even the person with the lowest self-esteem can find at least one good point!
List your good and bad points under the headings. Your bad points might include things you have difficulty doing, things you don’t like about your thoughts etc.
When you’ve done that, change the heading on the “Bad points” column to “Things I Need To Improve”. Number them in order of difficulty, making the easiest first and make a commitment to start today. Remember this is about YOU not the rest of the world. Only you can make the choice to change. Once you get the first improvement made the rest get easier and easier.
It’s important to celebrate our strengths and build on our weak points to help us mature and grow. Do the best you can rather than aiming for an unattainable perfection which only makes you feel bad about yourself. Aiming for better self-esteem helps you to do better, and also to feel better.
Other people play an important part in how we feel about ourselves. If low self-esteem is a problem for you, think about your current relationships. Who undermines your self-confidence? Who helps you feel really good about yourself – at work, at home?
Develop friendships that make you feel good. Making changes in your relationships can be an effective way to increase self-esteem – but it is rarely easy. It takes courage to grow.
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